“A valuable woman is always increasing her worth”
At the start of my healing journey, I wrote a list of qualities I desired in men based off my life experiences. After going through these qualities, I began to wonder. What qualities do I need as a woman to attract and keep a high valued man?
According to Regain, “A high value woman knows and understand her worth, exudes an energy that goes beyond the physical.”
That my dear, started my healing journey into becoming a better version of myself. Then I began to wonder “Well, what does that mean exactly? What is my self-worth? What kind of energy is that?” I had a hard time understanding my worth and how to project that energy. But no worries queen, I got you covered. I did the work, and if you’re reading this article then that means you are ready to do the work as well.
Here’s a tip, a high valued man is usually taking notes of your presentation, your manners, and your behaviors. With that being said, you are defined by certain characteristic traits. I believe both genders carry the same positive characteristics traits, but a high valued man pay attention to these specific traits.
Appearance
The more you take care of yourself, the more valuable you'll appear. A high value women take pride in how they look before they walk out the door. Things such as clothing, hygiene, make-up, and posture are external signs of this. Taking care of yourself in this manner not only sends a powerful message to yourself but to men as well. It shows a sense of self-worth.
Emotionally Intelligent
Having the ability to manage your emotions while understanding others is an ultimate skill that is necessary to learn. Being emotionally intelligent means, you can assess the situation and understand that their behavior stems from trauma. How you respond can be very vital to any situation. Acknowledging someone's challenges, perspectives and needs can be an empathic approach to take. That my queen's give men a sense of security when it come to their emotions.
Communication skills
Effective communication skills are extremely important not only when dealing with men but with people in general. I personally don’t believe in arguments; I believe in disagreements, but it should never turn into an argument. Being able to articulate and express your emotions without insulting anyone is an important quality to have. You know the saying “It's not what you say, it how you say it”. Communication is a key to any relationship, but most importantly it shows an admirable skill.
Compassionate
A true definition of compassion is having a deep understanding of others and expressing true unconditional love. It’s the ability to connect with people on a deeper level and understand their struggles while offering support and encouragement. She's not afraid to express her opinions, but she takes the time out to understand other perspectives as well. Being compassionate can be difficult for an egotistical person, but a high value woman recognizes the suffering and take immediate action to help. A high value man wants to be around women who loves and understand them.
Confident
Confidence is being sure of your abilities. Recognizing your strengths, while accepting your weakness as well. Being secure, rather than insecure. Insecurities often come out when we are triggered. The very thing that triggers you just shows you an area that needs to be healed, or most importantly worked on. A high value woman is confident in her value and understands her worth. That confidence comes from a power within and that my dear, you have access to.
Wanna know more on confidence, check out this article on “How to be a confident woman”
Inspiring
High value women have an optimistic view on life, believing anything is possible with a little dedication and hard work. She views challenges as an opportunity for growth, especially when the odds are stacked against her. Strive to be better daily, while inspiring those dear and near. Men admire this trait because it energizes them to do better and push through any obstacle they face as well.
Self-respect
Self-respect is about setting standards and vocalizing your morals without having to compromise them for anyone. How you carry yourself plays a major part in self-respect. Its separates you from other woman and set the tone for how a man should treat and interact with you. The best part about self-respect is that it inspires men to step their game up before they step to you or simply walk away.
Integrity
It doesn’t matter who’s watching, a person with integrity behaves ethically and tries to do the right thing, even when no one's looking. A woman of integrity simply put, is someone who is honest and live by her moral principles. Things such as keeping promises, retaliating, gaslighting, and refusing to gossip are small areas that are character defining situations. Now, I'm not saying it's easy. It takes a great deal of strength to always do the right thing. With integrity a man will trust you with his life and have faith in you.
Kind
You know the saying “Kill them with kindness” it packs a powerful punch. Someone who is kind can be a beacon of light that lights up any room. Being kind means listening without giving advice or judging someone's situation. They understand that sometimes people just need a lending ear. Having the ability to uplift those around you without tearing them down. By being kind, in return men will naturally provide safety and security.
High value women do not chase men, nor do they engage in activities that bring them little in return. They are independent yet strong individuals who strive to be their best every moment they get. She provides an optimistic view on life and shares her wisdom with those who are willing to listen.
After reading this article, ask yourself do you possess these qualities? In order to attract and keep a high value man, you must become a high value woman. The goal of course is to become the best version of yourself for yourself. Just focus on becoming a better version of yourself and the right man will appear when the time is right, but you must do the work. Hopefully this article inspired you to start your healing journey so that you can reach your maximum potential. You got this queen!
Until next time,
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